Happy Valentine’s Day? I want to dedicate this article to February 14th because it’s become such a commercialized holiday for couples, lovers and significant others. Some take it lightly and some very seriously, but all in all if you are a couple you are receiving a card, candy or flowers at least, it seems to be such a wonderful day.
I want to write to the individuals out there who are not “a couple”, who have been single, widowed, divorced, newly single or soon to be divorced. This can also apply to people whose partner is out of town and feels lonely, alone or who are in a relationship where they are unhappy and either wish they were alone or were happier. I only put it in those words because this holiday has been commercialized in a way that it’s all about togetherness, intimacy and affection so there’s also nothing worse than being in an unhappy relationship on this very special day.
I decided this year I am going to dedicate my Valentine’s Day to self-love. I am important to me and it doesn’t matter if I have a significant other. I don’t need the candy or flowers or cards from a partner to know I’m significant on my own. I love myself and it took many years to be able to say that but I do; so why not treat myself to something. I’m not quite sure how I’ll show myself yet but I may do a number of different things. Here are some of my suggestions to you for having A Self-Love Happy Valentine’s Day.
- Get a massage.
- Buy yourself flowers.
- Buy yourself candy – If I do that I’m picking chocolate covered strawberries. Not only do I love them but there’s more fruit than chocolate. In my mind it’s healthier. Hee hee!
- Cook your favorite meal or a dessert.
- Go out with another friend who is single or whose partner is away.
- Visiting someone, an elderly person or someone who is a widower, can make a big difference for them and for you.
- If you’ve been single for a while and you don’t mind being around couples then join another couple.
- Get a RED manicure and/or pedicure (it’s not only Valentine’s Day but it’s The American Heart Month – Go red for women).
- Light some candles. Maybe do a little love spell to bring love into your life; what other day would be this perfect to call upon Cupid!!!!
- Take a bath with lots of bubbles, candles and maybe even a glass of bubbly or a non-alcoholic bubbly beverage. Don’t drink to drown away your sorrows. That might make you sad.
- Pamper yourself in some way you love and enjoy.
- Call a good friend you haven’t spoken to in years.
- If you are a parent enjoy the day with your kids or if you are a grandparent enjoy babysitting your grandkids.
- Make some extra cash babysitting for others who are going out.
- Watch your favorite love story or if that is not a good idea watch your favorite comedy.
- Wear Red and be bright out there in the world.
- Ask someone out you’ve been interested in.
- Have a party.
- Volunteer – sometimes helping others makes us feel so good and the people you are helping may have been alone if you weren’t there.
- Everyone has other single friends – do something with them that’s fun; dancing, movies, dinner, billiards, bowling, anything you think is fun and you both or all enjoy.
- Just relax and read a book you haven’t had time to or haven’t made the time to read.
- Do your best to remember it’s just another day. This is a tough one for me for some reason.
- Get a facial.
- If the weather is nice take a hike.
- Go somewhere you’ve been wanting to go.
- Enjoy a movie by yourself.
- Take this time to reflect on your future and do your best not to reflect on past relationships.
I am also reminding myself although it’s a holiday for lovers and togetherness there are lots of couples I know who are miserable, so I will do my best to be happy I am alone rather than miserable with someone else because sometimes that’s even more sad than being alone. See – That’s the bright side of it.
Remember you’ll notice couples on this day you never even knew existed but it’s okay. It’s okay not to be “a couple” on Valentine’s Day. Love yourself, take care of yourself, and be good to yourself.
Always remember you are worth it and you are significant; with or without another. Have the best day you can possibly have!!!!! Happy Self-Love Day!!!