The holidays are hard enough for some individual's...add relatives who are not our favorites to the mix and it makes them even more difficult. Sometimes we need to compromise. Of course, sometimes we don't, depending on the other person but for people we think deserve it, here are some thoughts.
How are your relationships with family members and friends? Do you compromise in your relationships?
If the answer is no - maybe you should read this.
Compromise is the key to any good relationship; whether it be with your spouse, mom, dad, friend, acquaintance or the clerk you see every day in the store. It doesn't matter who it is; compromise is always the key.
Once you learn this key rule in life you will change your relationships.
You don't always have to be right
How many relationships have you been in where either you or the other person won't budge? Do you think you are always right? Would you rather always be right or always be kind? No one is always right every time. It's funny, I say to my family and friends - If I tell you something it's because I'm 100% sure it's correct, or at least 99%. By this time in my life, I don't nag but if I tell you something, I'm only telling you because I did my research or experienced it already. I feel I don't give advice that will steer anyone wrong, but again, I'm not always right either. I don't give advice unless I've been there, done that. I do know what works or worked for me may not necessarily work for someone else though. Even though I only give advice when I think/pretty much know I'm right that doesn't mean I am right. I know that. I'm not perfect: just sharing things I've learned in the past.
Males and Females are very different
In a male/female relationship things are always different than a male/male or female/female relationship. For one thing, most women and men think differently so it makes for unfamiliar communication sometimes. It's not because we don't want to understand each other, it's just because we are programmed so differently from childhood into adulthood. When I was growing up the thought process of my elders was - men were taught they are the providers/the hunters - that's how they take care of their family. Women were taught they are the ones who take care of their family through emotional support, cleaning, cooking, etc. Yet now a days things are different but a lot of individuals still carry that mentality. And if that's the way you choose to live that's great, I'm not putting it down in any way, shape or form.
Sometimes girlfriends understand each other better because they were brought up the same way or guys understand guys better because they were brought up the same way. Some guys who were raised with sisters think more like women or treat women differently and same for women with brothers. It's all a matter of figuring the other person out, if possible, and compromising. My boyfriend knows women quite well because he's always had female friends so he's very nice to be around.
Put time, kindness and patience into your relationships
So, relationships take a lot of work and you have to be willing to put the work into them in order to have a good one. What you put into it (like anything else) is what you'll get out of it.
Be kind to your partner, your mom, your dad, your daughter, your son, your friends and/or anyone who you are in a relationship with. Remember he/she is human too. Be patient, compromise and love them. Treat them the way you expect to be treated. If you wouldn't want them to say something to you, don't say it to them. Send love out into the world. You'll get it back.
Remember, compromise, compromise, compromise. It's not as painful as you think. If you really love someone it's easy.
HAPPY HOLIDAYS TO ALL!!!! BE AS KIND AS YOU CAN. WE ARE ALL ONE.