Tips for Creating the Business or Career of your Dreams Through Vision Boards
by Marion Licchiello



Marion Licchiello is the author of ANYONE CAN! Live A Happier Life, a book about changing your attitude and thoughts to change your life, and To Make Up or Break Up - That is the Question, which offers helpful questions to guide you in the right direction.

Marion is also an enthusiastic Certified Vision Board Coach, Self Empowerment Coach and Motivational Speaker. She prides herself on learning and growing to become a better person day by day and in turn helping others do the same. Marion's message is geared toward living a happier, more peaceful existence.

Her primary belief is, "Whatever you focus on is what you get, so why not focus on the positive?". She believes attitude is everything and changing one single thought can make a world of difference in your life. She believes that if she can do it, ANYONE CAN!

Marion says, "I was fortunate enough to start my own Vision Books before I ever heard of Vision Boards. Years ago, I started cutting out pictures and putting them in a book; images of who I wanted to be, how I wanted to act, what I wanted to wear & how I wanted to look. I was shocked when it was who I became."

She now creates vision boards for every part of her life. You'll be amazed at how magical a vision board can be. Are you ready for the career you've been waiting for?

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1. Begin thinking about what you really want from a business or career. What do you want to do in life? Who do you want to be? Do you know your mission or your life's purpose? It's easier to create a vision board if you have the vision, although it's not absolutely necessary.

2. Buy magazines and books pertaining to your goals. Identify what it is you want to do - but if you can't yet, it's okay. Just buy the magazines that are calling out your name.

3. Begin cutting out pictures that resonate with you. Find pictures that emanate and radiate the career or business you are dreaming about. If you're still not sure, pick out the ones that make you feel good, that show the life you want to live.

4. Cut out sayings that make you feel good. Understand that no one else has to understand what these words mean... only you do. You can cut out the word "comfortable" and to you it means you are living comfortably financially. Your friend may use the same word and it means a comfortable office, or being able to wear comfortable clothes to work. There's no right or wrong - it's all about you.

5. Place your board where you can see it every morning and every night. A vision board is a tool you get to look at every day so that you can keep the vision alive and in your mind. It can help you achieve your dreams, goals and/or desires. Visualize with the knowing that you will achieve your dreams. Believing is key!

 
 
Relationships Need Compromise and Understanding to Last! (Especially around the holidays)

The holidays are hard enough for some individual's...add relatives who are not our favorites to the mix and it makes them even more difficult. Sometimes we need to compromise.  Of course, sometimes we don't, depending on the other person but for people we think deserve it, here are some thoughts.

How are your relationships with family members and friends? Do you compromise in your relationships?
If the answer is no - maybe you should read this.

Compromise

Compromise is the key to any good relationship; whether it be with your spouse, mom, dad, friend, acquaintance or the clerk you see every day in the store. It doesn't matter who it is; compromise is always the key.

Once you learn this key rule in life you will change your relationships.

You don't always have to be right

How many relationships have you been in where either you or the other person won't budge? Do you think you are always right? Would you rather always be right or always be kind? No one is always right every time. It's funny, I say to my family and friends - If I tell you something it's because I'm 100% sure it's correct, or at least 99%. By this time in my life, I don't nag but if I tell you something, I'm only telling you because I did my research or experienced it already. I feel I don't give advice that will steer anyone wrong, but again, I'm not always right either. I don't give advice unless I've been there, done that. I do know what works or worked for me may not necessarily work for someone else though. Even though I only give advice when I think/pretty much know I'm right that doesn't mean I am right. I know that. I'm not perfect: just sharing things I've learned in the past.

Males and Females are very different

In a male/female relationship things are always different than a male/male or female/female relationship. For one thing, most  women and men think differently so it makes for unfamiliar communication sometimes. It's not because we don't want to understand each other, it's just because we are programmed so differently from childhood into adulthood. When I was growing up the thought process of my elders was - men were taught they are the providers/the hunters - that's how they take care of their family. Women were taught they are the ones who take care of their family through emotional support,  cleaning, cooking, etc. Yet now a days things are different but a lot of individuals still carry that mentality. And if that's the way you choose to live that's great, I'm not putting it down in any way, shape or form.

Sometimes girlfriends understand each other better because they were brought up the same way or guys understand guys better because they were brought up the same way. Some guys who were raised with sisters think more like women or treat women differently and same for women with brothers. It's all a matter of figuring the other person out, if possible, and compromising. My boyfriend knows women quite well because he's always had female friends so he's very nice to be around.

Put time, kindness and patience into your relationships

So, relationships take a lot of work and you have to be willing to put the work into them in order to have a good one. What you put into it (like anything else) is what you'll get out of it.

Be kind to your partner, your mom, your dad, your daughter, your son, your friends and/or anyone who you are in a relationship with. Remember he/she is human too. Be patient, compromise and love them. Treat them the way you expect to be treated. If you wouldn't want them to say something to you, don't say it to them. Send love out into the world. You'll get it back.

Remember, compromise, compromise, compromise. It's not as painful as you think. If you really love someone it's easy.

HAPPY HOLIDAYS TO ALL!!!! BE AS KIND AS YOU CAN. WE ARE ALL ONE.




 
 
 
I was speaking with a good friend a while ago about how her husband really brings out the worst in her. My thought after I hung up the phone was: if it wasn't inside, it couldn't come out. It was as if she was blaming her husband for her anger. No one can make something come out that is not already inside.

Before going to bed I asked myself, "What can I do to explain this to my friend?" I let it go and went to sleep. Low and behold at 3:45 a.m. a quote came to me I heard years ago by Dr. Wayne Dyer. I quickly scurried out of bed to look up exactly what he said to share it with her today. This is what I found.

"When you squeeze an orange, orange juice comes out - because that's what's inside. When you are squeezed, what comes out is what is inside."

This was also part of it:

"Did you ever hear a kid curse in front of their parents and then respond, "I slipped up?" They didn't slip up; they slipped out what was in. Those words had to be in you, to come out of you.

The results that you're getting in your life aren't an accident; those results are based on what's inside of you. You have to change the inside, if you want change, and you change the inside by changing what you spend your time thinking about. When you spend your time focusing on good things, then good things will come out of you."



We all know my belief is: whatever you focus on - positive or negative - is what you will get, so focus on the positive. That is what the last line reminded me of. I feel this was such a wonderful life lesson learned and I want to share it hoping it will shed light on her situation and make her think about it. Maybe it will make you think, too, as you are reading this. Just the thought put me back on the right track.

I remember an ex of mine would get really mad over a certain situation and say, "I'm not usually like this". He would carry on and go off about a certain subject and say, "I don't get like this" etc. From all I learned in life, if you are like that at the moment, you can't say you are not; it's what is inside of you coming out.

Dr. Wayne Dyer also said - An orange is an orange, whether you paint it yellow or call it a lemon; if you squeeze it you will still get orange juice. A person can think they have changed an emotion or gotten over something but if something affects them and makes them that angry, it's still inside of them.

Like with an orange, if you squeeze it, you put all your weight on it, and it bursts - you are going to get juice inevitably. With people, if anger is inside and someone says or does things that create pressure for them or makes them feel like they are going to 'explode' and they have that 'explosion' waiting to erupt inside of them - they will 'explode'. If the anger is inside, it will happen again until they clear it up.

It's when we are going through those types of moments we realize what is inside us. How wonderful is that? My friend calls that an AFGO. Acronym for Another F$%king Growth Opportunity. I love that. Please excuse my French!

Really give thought to how you react to situations. Do you get mad, angry, upset? Do you say "he got me angry" or "she makes me so angry, I just explode"?

I've written many times about how I do my best not to let things bother me (as much as humanly possible of course) such as someone driving too slow or driving two inches from my bumper or even cutting me off in traffic. I learned a long time ago, when listening to one of my personal development CD's - it's not worth it. If I get angry and allow this person to affect my day and they are oblivious going along about their day - who is this hurting? Not letting these types of situations cause anxiety is really what helps me to keep things in perspective and not get upset.

Ask yourself a few questions. Is that person who comes out when you explode the real you? What else sets you off? Your parents? Your kids? Your animals? Your boss? Your job? Really think about this. If so, what is it in you making that happen? Do you see something in this other person you see in yourself?

They say we are all mirrors for each other. Sometimes someone in our present brings back something we didn't like about ourselves in the past. If you are getting angry at them for that, maybe you haven't fully forgiven yourself yet. It's amazing how once we forgive ourselves we don't get as angry with others. Just saying.

I learned a long time ago to take 100% responsibility for all my emotions, feelings, and actions. So isn't it my responsibility to take ownership of my emotions and not try to justify them by blaming someone else for causing them?

Yes. If I admit that to myself then I can begin on a more positive journey. I can change my negative patterns and behaviors to more positive ones. Once you own it, you have power and control over it. This is something that can be changed so sometimes there just needs to be courage to change the things you can in order to get that piece of mind. I know I want to become the champion not the loser.

When this thought came to my mind this morning, I got up immediately to look up something from Dr. Wayne Dyer and this is what I found that I felt would help. I do my best to practice this most of my life now. I'm human and I don't do it always but I do my very best to live, as said so wonderfully below, by one of my favorite mentors.

Love Your Enemy?
8/3/11 at 10:30 am by Dr. Wayne W. Dyer

The poet Henry Wadsworth Longfellow wrote, "If we could read the secret history of our enemies we would find in each man's sorrow and suffering enough to disarm all hostility."

Harboring anger and hatred toward anyone guarantees that you remain in low energy fields where problems will continue to crop up repeatedly in your life. Try examining every relationship in which you feel judgmental thoughts of anger and hatred. Replace those thoughts with energies of acceptance, kindness, cheerfulness, and love. You will have to make a personal commitment to, first of all, notice what you are feeling and then exercise your ability to choose to send love.

When your heart becomes pure, your enemy becomes your friend, or even more significantly, your teacher. Your worst enemies are your greatest teachers because they allow you to examine the emotions of anger and revenge and then to transcend them. They give you the exact tools you need to elevate yourself to the spiritual energies that eliminate problems and provide solutions.

When you send love in response to hate you accomplish one of the most difficult things for anyone. As I look into my conscience I can now honestly say, I have no one who I can call an enemy. Over the course of my life I have been disappointed many times. Some have borrowed and never repaid. Some have forgotten their promises. Some have left me for others. Some have cursed me and spread rumors about me. Some have stolen from me. I send love to them all, mindful of the Buddha's words:

"We live happily indeed, not hating those who hate us. Among men who hate us we dwell free from hatred."

It has been this transformation in my own thinking, perhaps more than anything else, that has allowed me to move out of those low energy problem regions of my life. It is a powerful strategy for raising your spiritual awareness.



Isn't that great? I truly do my best to live by this thought process and had to remind myself that as my friend was was telling me her story because I started feeling something come up in me and instead I am now sending her husband love and light as I do with most situations.

This practice had truly made my life so enriched; problems and situations that would normally make someone nuts aren't as bad for me most of the time. It makes transitions smoother and life a lot more calm and peaceful.

As a matter of fact, when I'm going through situations with others who are going off on a tangent, I usually just stay calm and it drives them nuts. It's who I've become. I grew up in the Bronx so I experienced anger. I experienced rage. I experienced anger in my own home so I know what it's like. I choose to send love and peace as Pollyanna as that sounds.

"What we think determines what happens to us, so if we want to change our lives, we need to stretch our minds."
--- Wayne Dyer

Thanks for reading. I hope you got something out of this.

 
 
Don’t ever give up…believe…have faith…keep moving forward!  I was pleasantly surprised when I found something I had been looking for.

There are times that what we are searching for, whether it be a job, relationship or even a mindset and it feels as if they are so far out of reach. We may send out 100 resumes, meet 20 people, go to 20 interviews, go on many dates to find the right individual; whatever it is when there seems like there is just no means to an end; it feels as if you are spinning your wheels, remember, as I say so many times…sometimes when you think there is no hope or you just feel like giving up and saying to heck with it…it’s right there…right around the corner…right after that next step you take. We have to get through the clouds and rain to come into the sun and find the rainbow.  If you just keep following your dreams you may be pleasantly surprised as I was.

I am a go getter and at times others think I’m nuts but I don’t care what other people think. I keep going for what I want in life and I keep believing it will come and thinking thoughts of abundance and eventually what I am hoping for comes to fruition. The Law of Attraction is something I definitely live my life by. You never know how it’s going to show up in your life either…so…pay attention.

You cannot be happy with or because of someone else. Can they add joy and more happiness to your life? HECK YEAH!!!!! I am happy with myself; even with my flaws…even through life's craziness…I still do my best every day to come out shining; with a positive attitude, good thoughts and good intentions. I always think about what I am grateful for. Does this mean I'm happy all the time. NO!!!!!!!! I'm human!

Keep striving, praying, having faith and believing in what you are dreaming about and don’t give up. Sometimes you may need to change direction or tweak what you are doing but if you know there is a new beginning; that person who is out there, to be your ideal weight or at your best fitness level, the job or career you’ve been hoping for…then keep going! If you definitely know 100% something is a dead end…then of course that is another story… but when you are taking all the right steps and moving forward you will most likely get to exactly where you want to be even with allllll the setbacks and disappointments.

Good luck!!!!! Keep truckin’

 
 
Vision Boards created hope for seniors in rehabilitation

Seniors recovering from surgeries and illnesses found hope on July 7, 2011 when I had the opportunity to conduct a vision board workshop at The Lutheran Care Center at Concord Village in Poughkeepsie, NY. 

In attendance were 13 patients and 2 family members. While my dad was part of the workshop, I and two staff members helped them to create the life of their dreams on their vision board.  It was amazing as we watched the images emerge into beautiful, colorful stories of who, how and where they want to be upon returning home from The Lutheran Care Center. 

Over the years, I have worked with people of all ages, sharing what I have learned through experiences in life; motivating, inspiring and guiding them so they, too, can connect to what brings them joy and peace, to live their lives in a happier, more positive state of mind.

Prior to the workshop I cut out pictures, phrases, quotes and sayings. The patients also chose their own that meant something special to them. Some of the images selected were: vacation areas, people walking, pets, family, words such as health, happiness, take control, stand tall, walk strong and the list goes on.

I started out by asking everyone - What are you looking forward to when getting home? Patients shouted out answers.

One said “Selling my house”, which was fascinating since something lead me to cut out a ‘for sale/sold’ house sign before the workshop, so there was her first image. 

Other responses were “my dog/cat”, “privacy”, “a cup of coffee on my deck” and “going to the local market”, and
again, the night before my intuition lead me to cut out a picture of a local market.  Hooray.  She was able  to use that one, too.

As I spoke to everyone individually I asked questions such as - What is your life's desire? Where will you visit? What haven't you completed yet that you wish to do when you get home?

 I explained how this is one of the steps for developing and creating a brand new vision. If you are unaware of the concept of vision boards, here is a brief description: a vision board is a wonderful manifestation tool that helps you to create the life you always wanted. Though it sounds too simple, I’ve been creating vision books, boxes and boards for half my life and I've conducted many workshops and vision boards have been an integral part in helping me stick to and achieve many, many goals over the years. I've been astonished at the outcomes I've created by what looks to be a simplistic collage on my wall, not only for myself but in my relationships as well.

Before the workshop, what I found by observing the patients in rehab was some were thrilled they made it through surgery one day and the next day calling themselves invalids, even though it wasn't true.  They were just giving up hope. My thought was why not have them look at pictures of themselves dancing, walking or
just smiling, or cutouts of people doing the same. Why not turn their negatives into positives?  My true belief  in life is “Whatever you focus on is what you get, good or bad, so why not focus on the good”?

My hope was to reconnect them with the person they were before their illness, who they always wanted to be or what they've always wanted to do, have or achieve.  Here are some of the comments I received.

A 93-year-old woman who barely talks to anyone said “This is so beautiful”, “I’m so excited”, “This really made me happy. Thank you”.

Another participant said - “This was so therapeutic, I'm so glad I came”.  “I feel happy just looking at this already”.  “I think this will brighten my days here, thank you so much, I'm glad someone talked me into coming”.

Another - “I needed this.  I was ready to give up and this somehow has given me some hope as silly as that
sounds”.

I wanted to shed happy tears because I felt like maybe, just maybe, their vision boards will give them hope
and bring a smile to their face every day while at the center and when they get home.  From the buzz going around when I returned the next day,  I heard some already realized their dreams of going home and living a productive life again were not so far out of their reach.  I'm honored to have been a part of this.

Every workshop is different for every person and age group but the results are always the same; a happier,
more positive outlook on life.  I feel as if I helped find a little peace within them and some already created a thought process of hope, motivation and willingness to go onto a healthier, more fulfilled life.  What more can I
ask for? I am truly blessed to have been a part of this very special day.

This article is In Memory of Frank Licchiello, my dad. He passed away on July 12, 2011.  I miss him so much but I'm thrilled I was able to share this experience with him.

         
Marion’s focus is on overall personal development, healing, spirituality, health, fitness, growth, and
wellness. She has been featured in Shape, Prevention and Miss Fitness magazine. She had a local TV Show related to health, healing and wellness. She writes a blog for the Poughkeepsie Journal titled “Get Motivated, Get Fit”
http://blogs.poughkeepsiejournal.com/getmotivatedgetfit/ and is a feature writer for The Country Courier Magazine www.countrycouriermagazine.com. Marion is a certified as a Personal Trainer and Fitness Counselor. She was a certified
Hypnotist and Level I & II Reiki Practitioner. She practiced Thought Field Therapy and has worked with Kinesiology. She is fascinated with the mind.  She also reads Fairy, Angel and Goddess cards. The readings are to express what
needs to be improved upon and the positive. Her mission in life is to help others create their ideal lives and reach their goals by sharing her own life experiences.


 
  Email: getmotivatedwithmarion@yahoo.com

  Phone: 845-596-2990